Book Recommendation for recovering porn addicts and their partners

So as you know my partner is a porn addict.  He admitted this to himself properly and really decided to start workig on recovery just over a month ago.  Me?  I knew there was a problem long before, of course i tried to tell him, to make him see, to force him to want recovery to choose us over porn… but its not something one can force.

Its not something easily admitted.

So you can imagine my surprise when he agreed to et a self help book and start researching the whole thing.  He had always refused before saying he’d just stop etc… So the we read a few reviews and finally settled on the porn trap.

We set aside time each day and read a chapter a day and then made notes of the tasks and are now going through completing tasks, some are just for him, some are for you as a couple and they are really interesting and helpful.

I feel like reading this book made a monumental difference to his recovery, actually seeing it for real, just how porn affects you, how it messes wit the brain, turns you into someone else.  The book is full of other peoples experiences and really gives you both plenty to relate to.  It helps see things from your partners point of view, really how it is for them and the same for them with you.

The tasks are simple but seemingly effective and it really does cover everything from how addiction starts, why you get addicted, what happens in the brain and how we form a relationship with it due to the pleasure chemicals it releases and how peoples lives have been torn appart to examples and advice on beating the addiction.   Its pretty comprehensive, although sometimes there is a fair few references to religion helping people and, being non religious, we did have to take it with a pinch of salt but other than that it was really interesting and a great bondin experience in itself for us, it initiated alot of difficult discussions I’m not sure we’d have been able to have otherwise.

I can’t say its the best, we haven’t read much on the topic but i can say it was a big help to us and hopefully can be to anyone else going through the same thing.